In life there are many instances when God gives us a chance to identify how life is planned for us. Getting away with wrong is one. For some, it is easy to do wrong and get away with it. I guess God has his own way of letting it go for a while before making one realize the right. In my case, most of the time, I get the result of my wrongs immediately. Trust me, I am not complaining.
I was driving on a busy road in deira going to sharjah. I had been waiting 15 minutes to get close to the signal moving only a few inches everytime the light turned green. I was at least 40 minutes away from my destination. There was this middle-aged guy who moved really close to my car and wanted to move in front of me and expected me to give him way. He had two kids in the car with him. I (as a normal impatient soul) made up my mind that I will not let him through.
As the light turned green I accelerated hard enough to make sure he does not get the way almost cursing him as I sped past by him. Naturally I was pissed off and to my surprise - as I looked into the rear-view mirror - so was he. There are moments when one fails to realize the importance to reach somewhere as quickly as possible and not having a choice. It is not a good situation to be in because I failed to realize that everyone is in a hurry - some more than me - and there is nothing wrong in giving way. I was not willing to let these right thoughts take over the wrong ones.
Immediately after crossing the signal I realized that I was in the last lane which merges with the second lane on the left. This guy, although behind me, moved into the lane left to mine. He saw me coming in from the right lane and came close to me looked me in the eye and gestured offering me the way. God just made sure I get a result of my anger there and then. I was too angry and there was too much ego for me to take his offer.
It took a few seconds for me to realize my mistake and cool me down. I cannot forget the face of that guy when he offered me the way. To date it makes me think about my wrong actions and their consequences and the guilty feeling after it. Another learning experience, I must say.
Saturday, April 12, 2008
Give way to get away
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"In my case, most of the time, I get the result of my wrongs immediately." Does it help you not doing the wrong next time?
You know the interesting thing is to do wrong knowing it is wrong! When most of the people do wrong, they do it believing they are right. Your case is indeed different. God is kind enough to make you realize what is right and what is wrong. But, in this particular case, I think you were not wrong.
There is absolutely nothing wrong in giving way. But, at the same time, there is nothing wrong in not giving way as well. Though everyone is in a hurry, but it is difficult to judge who is in more hurry. In many times you can be in more hurry than others. What is wrong, is to overtake someone who might be in more hurry than you are. Avoid giving way to someone who might not be in as much hurry as you are, is not wrong!
It definitely helps me in identifying the wrong the next time. My belief however, is that we all know what is wrong, and the first thought before doing wrong reminds us of it being "wrong", but .......................... I guess we all can come up with our own individual reasons. That howeverm does not change the fact.
Doing wrong knowing it is wrong is just plain human - nothing wrong with that. However, one should never start accepting it to be right at some point - again natural and human.
It is wrong NOT to give way especially if you know you can live with it (which was my case). How can you "guarantee" that you are in more hurry than anyone else? My argument here is that patience is the key no matter what, what is yours?
So you mean it only helps you identifying the wrong the next time and not really avoid doing it?
I still believe that most of the times we do wrong thinking it is right. Even the wrong things that we do, do it believing there is nothing wrong in doing something wrong which makes it right to do. We only find out how wrong we were later on. Some people learn a lesson then, and some just ignore it and repeat.
I totally agree with your argument that "patience is the key". But what I am saying here is what is right and what is wrong. We can never guarantee who is in more hurry unless we see a buzzing ambulance :D. And that is exactly what my point is.
"It is wrong NOT to give way especially if you know you can live with it (which was my case).” True. But how can you guarantee others can not live without it? You can give way if you can afford to, thinking as doing a favor and not thinking doing something right or wrong. I don’t see anything wrong in not giving something which is already yours :) In this case your way!
It helps in identifying it, but I think not doing it is a completely different ball game.
I agree with you to a large extent that we do wrong thinging it is right (most of the time). Like I said repeating something one is aware of to be wrong is nothing but human weakness which is acceptable to an extent as long as there is something being done to stop it.
If you cannot be sure then how do you decide what is right or wrong? Maybe somone's job is at stake or someone has to pay the monthly rent before he/she gets fined because its the last day. To me there is a simple solution. If you cannot see something to be black and white then choose something that is nearest to the white (light grey for instance) - hence the patience. It may not be 100%"right" but hell it aint 100% "wrong" at all.
"I don’t see anything wrong in not giving something which is already yours". Absolutely. Do you think you can apply that to everything in life in general? I am not talking about anything that has to do with you as an individual, but rahter with things that include others as well.
"If you cannot see something to be black and white then choose something that is nearest to the white (light grey for instance)." I like it. This is what is called optimism I guess. But human nature is to choose dark grey (close to black) and call it right. Right?
"It may not be 100%"right" but hell it aint 100% "wrong" at all.” Agreed!
"I don’t see anything wrong in not giving something which is already yours." It is difficult to generalize it and apply to everything in life in general. This is mainly because it is difficult to decide if something is really yours or not (especially if others are involved.) I am not talking about things like "car", "property", "belongings" which you can claim its 100% yours. Let’s, for example, say your job. You keep saying it is yours but in the end someone more capable than you comes and replace you. So end result? It was never yours! Similarly a person you love. You keep claiming him/her yours but in the end gets apart for some reason. End result? He/She was never yours. So what my point is that we can not generalize the statement simply because most of the times we can not claim things to be ours.
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